Do you want a reasonably peaceful divorce? It is possible to have -- but only if you take care to avoid certain critical blunders.
Knowledge is power. If you recognize the mistakes that you're making (or about to make), you can take steps to avert a disaster. Do any of these common mistakes sound familiar to you?
When you're a parent of young children, a divorce means an uneasy transition to shared parenting. This often means splitting holidays and other special events -- or sharing them.
If you're feeling a little stressed about the situation as you approach Halloween, can you imagine how your children may feel? They are looking forward to the holiday, and they really want both of their parents to celebrate with them. This can be easier than you expect it to be as long as you and your ex-spouse are willing to cooperate a little.
When your girlfriend announced that she was pregnant, you were thrilled. You anxiously awaited your child's birth, and you've been there every step of the pregnancy. Now that your child is actually here, you're an active and involved parent. The only problem is that, for one reason or another, your name isn't on the birth certificate as the child's father.
So, why bother establishing your paternity? If you're supporting your child and everything seems fine, is there any point in going to the trouble?
When you go through a divorce, you probably have significant concerns about what this process may mean for your future. The end of a marriage can be costly, and the financial impact may last for years to come. You understand the importance of securing fair terms and the appropriate amount of spousal support you need.
Not everyone is eligible for spousal support. If you are eligible, it is possible that you could get benefits for a certain period of time, or you may not get as much as you think you will. There are specific factors that affect how much a person gets and the amount. Whether you will be able to settle the issue of spousal support in negotiations or you will take your divorce before a court, it may be helpful to learn more about the considerations that may affect your support order.
Americans love to celebrate at every big occasion, so it's probably no surprise that "divorce parties" have become so popular.
But, is it really okay to have one? Here are a few things you should consider:
To get a divorce, you have to serve your spouse with notice that you intend to obtain one, but that isn't always an easy task. If your spouse picked up stakes and moved on without leaving a forwarding address, what can you do?
1. Do your best to locate your spouse
It's not uncommon to hear jokes about panicked or clueless fathers trying to handle the morning routine with the kids. You also hear jokes about new mothers who are nervous about leaving their husbands in charge of the baby for the first time.
Those jokes play on our culture's subconscious beliefs about the nature of men and women when it comes to parenting. Moms are considered "naturally gifted" at handling a toddler's strange food requests, a preschooler who is determined to dress himself and a grade schooler's absent-mindedness. Dads are seen as somehow just barely able to make it through a few hours alone with the kids without a serious mishap occurring.
You're at your wits' end with your spouse and your marriage. Despite all your efforts at keeping your marriage together, you realize that it's over.
You very likely feel that you failed at something, whether that something was keeping your commitment to your marriage alive, providing a stable home for your children inside a nuclear family or just finding the strength to endure the bad times.
A constant source of frustration for divorced parents who have to pay child support is that they often doubt that their hard-earned money is actually going to their child. They often suspect the money is going to fund the receiving parent's lifestyle or unnecessary items.
Those parents often wish there was a way to force the receiving parent to account for every last dime of support. Well, there are two reasons that isn't usually done. Understanding the reason Illinois doesn't normally demand an accounting of child support may help you accept the situation.
One of the biggest worries a lot of parents have when they divorce is how it's going to affect their child's ability to function in school. It's a natural concern. You know that academic success can be the basis for a future that's prosperous and happy. Failure in school can easily cut off avenues for success in life that can't be reopened.
Studies confirm that students can be negatively impacted at school by their parents' divorce -- especially if it isn't the first divorce they've gone through. However, the real damage actually starts well before the divorce.
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