Your divorce has been settled and the custody order has been put in place. The court has decided that both you and your former spouse are individually both good parents, and you’re in agreement with this. What matters now is that you’re able to work together successfully as co-parents.
In any co-parenting relationship, there are bound to be disagreements. What matters is how these disputes are resolved. Of course, where possible, conflict should be kept to a minimum. After all, it is widely agreed upon that children cope better with more stability.
Outlined below are a few tips for maintaining an effective co-parenting relationship.
Stick to the custody order
It is not uncommon for disputes to arise over the custody schedule. Your former spouse may not agree with the terms, and might even start to disobey the arrangement. In such a situation, it’s important that you stick to your end of the deal. As frustrating as it can be, you should not retaliate by refusing visitation to your former spouse. If possible, try and remind them that the arrangement is legally binding and that there could be consequences for not sticking to its terms.
Make exchanges a peaceful time
The only time you see your former spouse now might be on handover days. It’s important to remember that this is not the time to have disagreements. It’s vital for the stability of the children that transitions remain calm and peaceful. If you do need to have a conversation with your co-parent about the custody schedule, then try to do this in private.
If your co-parenting relationship isn’t working out despite your best efforts, then you do have options. Custody modifications are possible if the court deems them to be in the best interests of the child. Having legal guidance behind you will also help ensure that your parental rights are upheld.