Nelson Mandela said, “If you want to make peace with your enemy, you have to work with your enemy. Then he becomes your partner.”
It is good advice if you are about to divorce. Even if you do not have children, you still need to work together with your spouse. Doing so is the quickest way to solve the problem you both share: Deciding how to end your marriage.
Divorce does not need to be a major battle
If you look at the conflicts in the world, many of them have gone on for years. The two sides are no closer to resolution than when they started. Meanwhile, both continue to do considerable harm to each other. The longer they fail to reach an agreement, the more it costs in financial and human terms.
If you litigate your divorce, each refusing to budge from your demands, you will spend more money and time and cause more harm. When the judge makes their decision, there is a high chance that at least one of you leaves disgruntled. It could make a future conflict more likely.
Outside help is essential to resolve divorce conflict
When two sides have opposite views, the only way to settle is to accept you both need to make compromises.
It is easy to get so wrapped up in your version of things that you have no chance of understanding the other person. The same applies to them. An attorney can act as a trusted advisor. They can help you set realistic divorce goals while making sure you do not cede too much ground. They can help you achieve a speedy settlement that works for both sides and put an end to your differences.