Making the decision to divorce isn’t easy for many parents. You might be worried about how you’re going to get your kids through it. The good news is that children are resilient. They’ll likely take your lead when it comes to how to process the divorce. By taking the time to reassure them that everything’s going to be fine and that both parents still love them, you can help them cope.
There are several ways that you might be able to minimize the negative aspects of the divorce. Thinking about these before you even tell them about the impending divorce is often beneficial. If possible, discuss them with the other parent, so you can develop a mutual plan.
Create a united parenting front
Children who go through their parents’ divorce will sometimes try to play one parent against the other. If you and your ex present a united front, the kids will quickly realize that it isn’t going to work. You can tell the children about the divorce together, so they see that you’re both committed to raising them. Some children may worry that their parents won’t be involved with them, so try to quell these fears from the start.
Try to remain consistent
Consistency can help the children as they transition to two different households. When possible, keep things like bedtime and other routines the same between both homes. You should also try to keep the kids active in their chosen activities.
Ideally, you and your ex will be able to work out the parenting plan quickly. This can help provide kids with the stability they need. They can go through the transition period and know that they’re adjusting to the long-term way of life.