Are you the father of a child born outside of marriage?
If you have a child and are going through a divorce, one thing you should understand is how the court determines custody. Overall, like any other state, the courts want to do what's in the child's best interests.
Toddlers are small, and they often seem like they don't remember things from day to day. They may not seem as observant as they truly are, which is one of the reasons why some parents don't think it's important to explain a divorce to them.
As someone going through a divorce, your first concern is your children. You and your spouse had a volatile relationship. You aren't sure that they are a safe parent or that they should have custody of your children.