All marriages go through rough patches. So how do you tell the difference between a marriage that just needs a little bit of work and a marriage that isn’t meant to last? If you’re on the fence about seeking a divorce, here are the signs that your marriage really is over:
One of you can’t forgive the other. Whether it’s infidelity, drinking or a hundred small resentments that seem to have piled up, the fact that the past keeps getting dragged up in every argument is an indication that your marriage isn’t likely to survive much longer.
Everything else comes first. If you married an artist, you may be used to losing them to their passion projects, but most couples make an effort to be there for each other. If work, kids, hobbies and friends seem to always come before time with your spouse, that’s a sign that one or both of you no longer finds the relationship fulfilling.
You’re no longer “real” with your spouse. Your spouse is the one person you should be able to trust to accept you as you are — flaws and all. If you find yourself putting on an emotional mask or tailoring your behavior in a certain way just to avoid arguments, you’re probably not with the right person.
You’re already halfway out the door. Maybe you’ve quietly opened a bank account in your own name without telling your spouse. Perhaps you’ve just started to explore rentals in the area to see what you can afford on your own. Either way, that’s a big clue that your heart is no longer in the marriage.
As painful as divorce may be, if these things sound familiar, it’s probably well past the time you should start looking in to your options. An experienced family law attorney can help.